Some time back I met a friend of mine and I had the pleaser of talking to her at a coffee table. We talked about several things from personal to social. When I met her about eight years back, she was a girl who wears ‘general cloths’. She wore the head scarf, tops and jeans. She was social, used to go swimming with her friends, played badminton and she was a top student too. Got ‘A’ grades is most of the subjects and did well in all the subjects that she studied. She was from a good family; her parents were kind and caring. She been the only daughter they had, they had high hopes for her. However, her boy friend was the only obstacle in her life. He was overly controlling, rude in situations, and there were rumors he smokes marijuana. All she dreamt of was to make him a better person.
And when I met her few days back it was after a long time! Maybe longer then six or seven years and I was astonished to see her wearing a veil, covering from head to toe except just one eye. And amongst the things we talked about, I was enthusiastic to know why the changes. And she explained, “the rumors about him (her boy friend back then) smoking was all true. He was such a jerk! I tried to help him, but he followed the devils path”, she continued with sorrowfulness in her voice, “the more I tried to convince him what he was doing is wrong, the more he hated me. And finally I reached my limits. Though it broke my heart, I made the right choice and left him.”
That yet did not explain why her life had to change. And she explained further, “that is when I met my now husband. He is a nice guy, kind and caring. He taught me righteousness. He showed the right path. After what I went through, I did not want to wait anymore. I did not want the world to judge me just because once I had a boy friend that used drugs. I wanted to forget my past. I did not want to see him (her boy friend back then) ever again. So I got married, and followed the true path”
And she went on to enlighten me with a bit of advise, “Thadu, you should also pray! And follow Islam in its true meaning”.
From what she told, I realized that the actual reason she was married, and the actual reason she was wearing the veil was not about religion or not about living a happy life. I felt that she wanted to hide her self from the world. She did not want to face criticisms, and maybe she did not want to be disturbed by her then boy friend. And just to be sure, I asked her one last question, “What are the pillars of Islam and Eema?” she remembered the five pillars of Islam, but she was unable to recall the pillars of Eeman!
And this certainly is the situation of several of the young girls who wear the veil. They wear it to hide, hide from the world, not because they know Islam or not because they are pious than others.
-thadu-
Sounds like a very insecure girl to me. Am not surprised she went into hiding. What a coward. Afraid to face the world. One horrid boyfriend and she had to become a reclusive. I think she deserves that fate. Stupid cowardly girl.
Outright tragic.
in a society where they label people i can understand why she went to hiding but though its tragic and ridiculous. but not everyone stands up and faces, some would go rotten and some would turn religious trying to find peace, the fact she talked about the ex boyfriend seems though she is still is not in peace, its sad… but its a human mentality, and somtimes somthing we are fed to believe that being religious and these days over religiousness will bring u the peace of mind….
so her islamisation was due to stress i guess. mayb shell b beaten for talkin to u!good tale btw.
[...] Someone I’ve heard of put an intriguing blog post on Thadus Blog Why do you wear the veil?Here’s a quick excerptAnd she explained, â??the rumors about him (her boy friend back then) smoking was all true. He was such a jerk! I tried to help him, but he followed the devils pathâ?, she continued with sorrowfulness in her voice, â??the more I tried to … [...]
this woman is going to damage her eyes with this silly one eye nonsense
I’ve heard similar tales of people who hide behind the Arab veil to hide their faults/mistakes/reality behind the cloak of ‘religion’.
The arab veil seems to be a wall impenetrable wall to criticisms, etc. A veiled woman ‘cannot’ be a slut/liar/thief/criminal.
yeah!! they wear it not because they know Islam!
this in fact ruins the dignity of islam!
i believe that most of the young girls get married and wear the huge black veil because they’ve had a horrible life and want to hide or something
but then there are those who wear it just to follow the path to heaven
and due to these stupid people who wear it for the namesake, destroy the names of the righteous people
and how on earth did she talk to you? aren’t they not allowed to speak or interact with beerattehi firihenun?
I have to completely agree with you that most girls wear the veil to either hide something or to hide from something. They might be hiding their looks, physical deformities or imperfections, guilt from a past experience and they might be hiding from ex-boyfriends, rapists etc. When I recently asked one of my friends why she started wearing the veil she told me that it was because she looked horrible!
hey thadu!!! a request to u!!! explain in ur blog WHY you were jailed when u were in CHSE…what was all those dramas??? u being an ex-haabi, now an etheist??…so can u enlighten us on these issues plz!!!
this seems very negative to islamic religion.., humans can do mistake .. they also can go to ryt path we need to give chance to them to come n walk in ryt path.
wen u kno the ryt u need to learn it b4 learn u can take steps n may learn later too.. may god give u ryt thinking
n use full capasity of ur brine
[...] a previous writing of mine, ‘Why do you wear the veil?’ I have tried to elaborate on a reasons why some ‘girls’ wear the veil covering except the [...]